969 – Allow them to fail.
Giving your child room to fail allows them to grow. It also shows they are trusted. It teach them they can be trusted. Giving them space to try and fail is important.
An important part of this is in your reaction. Your reaction can not hold judgement or answers. It can not have a layer of “i told you so” or “see” (you know how “see” is said when said judgily).
That is how, not only kids, put people learn. Trial and error. Only, they will not get to the trial part if they do have a safe space to fail. Try. Fail. Repeat. Encouragement. Then again. And again. Then?
Let them lead. How are they feeling, what’s their reaction? Why are you even there? If you trust them, you give them space. If they don’t come to you, let it be. Whatever happened happened. Wait til they go to bed, then clean up. You can work on teaching them to clean up after the experience later. One thing at a time. For now. Safe space.
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