It is about how we view things. It is about how we perceive things. It is about how we enter a situation. It is about the internal dialogue created. Good or bad. You choose.
How dare you? How could you? What is wrong with you? The hurt questions come out. One after the other. The walls and defenses are up. Metaphorical fists at the ready. Then. Nothing.
Alone and hurt. Alone and scared. Alone. Looking at this new world created by another.
Stop.
There is a choice in front of you. One where you are in control. One where you accept your role and responsibility. One where you come to understand this is life. Not good. Not bad. Just life.
Life is like waves. Big waves. Small waves. Violent waves. Calm waves. Destructive waves. Waves of life and growth.
Waves are not looking to harm. They are not looking to bring life and growth. They just are. It is no more reasonable for us to get upset at the circumstances of life, than it is for a fish to be upset at waves for washing it ashore.
We attribute human characteristics to things to make sense of them. To better understand them. We are here or not. We care. Things do not.
“So, life, what do you have for me next?”
“Nothing.”
“Then this is it. It’s done?”
“If you choose.”
“If I choose? Look at what you’ve done to me!”
“If you say so.”
“So, you accept no responsibility?”
“So, you accept no responsibility?”
This post started last night because the conclusion was determined there will be no more buying comic books. All but six comic book preorders were deleted. Most of those were for my daughter. (Find a situation where she will not get more books. You cannot.) There was a reflexive moment of sadness, pity, hurt, anger. Of blame. Of choice. A choice to focus on what matters.
I did not lose anything these past ten years (well, kind of, but that is another post). There was a gained perspective. A choice to learn from this and focus on what matters. To look at the path and life being created pre-daugther. To honestly look in the mirror and say, “I like this version better.”
So, what is my reasoning? To be a better father. To be a better person. To be a better example.
A Vegan Father… accepting responsibility for this life.
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