Based on my current situation there are choices being presented to me daily. Choices, like many others I’m sure, I don’t want to make or be presented with. Yet, there they are. How is one suppose to react in this situation? What’s the outcome?
Wednesday a situation was presented. One that could require a choice to be made, or left alone. Now, taking the higher ground is a choice. Taking a backseat is a choice. Even if it appears to be a non-choice, it’s a choice.
My father has said to me these past few months something that lingers, mostly, in every choice being made: If you think you can win this one, go for it. If you don’t think you can, don’t. Before you ask that, ask if it’s worth fighting for. What’s the outcome? What’s the benefit?
Luckily, other than my father, I had outside counsel. This was a misunderstanding on someone else’s part. This was a moment that someone else was bullying me. It does’t change the choices presented, but it does affect the thought process getting there.
At the end of the day, I stayed calm. I sought counsel. I reacted in the best interest of myself and my daughter. Because there wasn’t an over reaction. Because I thought through this. And, because I stood up for myself, it doesn’t feel good, but it feels like it was right. Now, if someone of a higher authority asks me “why”, I can answer logically and calming.
There’s an audience watching. Are you paying attention?
p.s.
Another nugget of wisdom my father keeps telling me; you can only control your reaction.
A Better Father 