I am way behind in writing here, but things have been hard and i have been working hard and trying to keep things together. I think writing here will help and i’m hoping to focus a little more, but man things in life add up. I really think i might be able to add something that could benefit people, just need to focus on doing that. Here’s hoping this continues to take flight.
A little about me:
I am a stay at home dad. I use to say domestic engineer. Who knows, it may come up again. I am 41.5 years old.
What qualifies me to create a site about being a father: I am one, of a 3.5 year old girl
A husband. A runner. An avid comic book reader. An avid reader of all sorts. I meditate as daily as possible for 20 minutes. Am also a plant based eater. I do not talk about this much and i definitely don’t judge others and their choices. It may come up or influence a blog post from time to time, though.
Also, it is common to see a lower case “i” regularly. Don’t judge, just except it. I thought i was going to be some sort of e.e. cummings long ago. I am not, but the lower case “i” stuck.
What inspired the starting of this site? Just wanting to create something. To get out of my own head. To get thoughts on to paper. I’ve read enough times that you should write daily. Get thoughts out. A journal seems like a great idea, but those thoughts don’t have the potential to get out into the world and writing thoughts about being a father and maybe being able to share that information. I am grateful to all those that have written online about being a parent. That shared a story when one was needed in a time of uncertainty. They helped calm a beating heart and a scared father.
Also, Kevin Smith has been saying for years, to those that listen: just start. There are no gate keepers currently. You can do a podcast (which I want to make part of this eventually). You can create a comic (which I want to do eventually). Just do it. The difference between the people currently doing it and those that are not currently doing it is they did it. Period. So, after years of dragging my feet, this is day one (well, two or three, but you get the point).
Other influences on me starting this and actually writing: Austin Kleon (http://austinkleon.com) and Scott Adams (http://blog.dilbert.com). There are many other influences, but these are three biggest ones that have been pushing my thought process for years. I can say right now that I do not always agree with Scott Adams, but the way his mind works is incredible. Just read him for the thought experiment alone.
I’m going to have to be open and honest on this site if i want people to trust me. If i want these thoughts and opinions to carry any weight. So, i’ll just put it out there right now: my wife and i disagree on much of parenting. This has been a struggle for a long time. This may or may not come into play in these posts, and at some point i may elaborate on that. However, for now it just seems enough to make not of it.
So, this site will hopefully post tips and tricks and things learned of being a father. It’s new. It’s growing and it will become something or other over time. We’ll figure it out together. I am not against posting book reviews, comic book reviews, running tips and tricks, eating thoughts and recipe shares. This is pretty much open ball for me. So, let’s get started and give it a try.
Also, my goal is to post once a week, minimum to set a standard. Though more is the goal and if this takes off with anyone, or myself, it may be more.
A Better Father 